【家长必读】文摘第二期：25个6岁之前必须养成的好习惯

有时候，我们看到孩子在电梯里大声尖叫，在和人讲话时不停挖鼻子，或者在一个女士走过他面前时和小伙伴讨论“她丑死了”……忙碌的爸爸妈妈们可能都来不及意识到这些行为是需要改进的。

“25 Good Manners that a Child Should have by Age 9”， 这原来是美国Parent杂志中的一辑跨页内容，我第一次看到它是在孩子的学校。老师用硬卡纸把这些good manners（应该说是好习惯？或者说是规矩？两者皆有之吧）贴在入校的墙壁上，每个孩子每天都会“走”过这些good manners。有一些做的不对的地方，老师就当下指着墙壁上的“条款”柔声细语但是却很坚定地教育孩子要做到了。如果你希望有一个懂礼貌，善意，讨人喜欢的宝宝，就一起来学习一下这25个must-do manners。一个会说“谢谢”、咳嗽知道捂住嘴、记得帮后面的人带一下门的孩子，比会背多少唐诗会背多少单词都要重要。

1. When asking something, say Please

需要东西的时候，要说“请”，“请帮我拿一下”，或者换一个词，学会说“麻烦你”。

2. When receiving something, say "Thank you."

当收到东西的时候，要说“谢谢”。

3. Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.

除非紧急，否则不要打断大人说话。当然作为大人，我觉得我们也没必要孩子一叫就停下一切扑过去问他“怎么了？要什么？”

4. If you do need to get somebody\'s attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.

如果你真的很需要插入别人的谈话，说“不好意思”是一种礼貌介入的方法。

5. When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.

如果你不确定是否可以做某件事，那就首先征得别人同意。去别人家做客的小孩，如果想吃桌上的零食，倘若事先可以问一句“我能吃这些吗？”是会让host多么愉悦的行为！

6. The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.

这个世界没有兴趣知道你不喜欢什么。一些负面的意见，自己知道就好，或者和朋友说说就好。

7. Do not comment on other people\'s physical characteristics unless, of course, it\'s to compliment them, which is always welcome.

不要对别人的外表评头论足，除非，是褒义的夸奖。

8. When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.

如果别人问你过得好吗？回答他也顺便问候一下对方。

9. When you have spent time at your friend\'s house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.

如果被邀请去小伙伴家做客，要感谢他的父母让你度过了一段快乐时光。

10. Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there\'s a response -- before entering.

进入关门的房间请敲门。

11. When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.

打电话给别人的时候先介绍说自己是谁。

12. Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.

要有感恩之心，收到礼物要说谢谢。到了会写邮件的年纪，表达感谢可以写一封thank-you note，收到的人会很愉快。

13. Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.

不要讲粗话。更不要为了显示自己长大了在大人面前讲。大人都知道这些，他们只会觉得则这样很无聊。

14. Don\'t call people mean names

不要喊别人的绰号。

15. Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.

不要取笑别人。取笑人家只是显得你很弱。

16. Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.

如果看一个演出觉得很无聊，也请尽量安静看完，表演者已经很尽力了。

17. If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."

不小心撞到人立刻说“不好意思”

18. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don\'t pick your nose in public.

打喷嚏或咳嗽都遮住嘴巴，公众场合不要挖鼻子。

19. As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

推门而出的时候，看下是否能帮后面的人hold一下门让它开着。

20. If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new.

如果看到爸妈、邻居或者老师在忙，问下是否需要帮忙？如果他们说“好”，你也许就可以学到一些新的事儿哦。

21. When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.

如果大人请你帮忙，不要抱怨，微笑着去做。

22. When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!

别人帮你的时候，要说谢谢！这样别人下次还愿意帮你哦。

23. Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.

养成正确使用餐具的习惯。如果不确定怎么用餐具，就请教父母或者看着父母怎么做。

24. Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.

吃饭的时候把餐布或者餐巾纸放一张在大腿上，需要的时候用来擦嘴。

25. Don\'t reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.

不要站起身来去够远处的食物，请别人帮你递过来。